5 Ways to Get Back Up and Benefit from Failure in Your Life and Career

If you succeed long enough in life you're going to fail. A lot. In fact, you might turn that around: if you fail long enough in life you're going to succeed. It is in our failures that we learn how to succeed if we are willing to take those failures and do something constructive with them.

When you fail, and you will, consider the following five ways to benefit from failure in a way that sets you up to succeed.

1. Increase gratitude. When we go through difficult times of failure, such as an unexpected job loss, it can help us recognize and be more grateful for the successes and good things we experience in our lives and careers. The most successful individuals are those that make a daily practice of expressing gratitude and recognizing the beauty in their lives.

2. Clarify and deepen support systems. We learn who we can trust and depend on during times of stress and difficulty. Our close friendships and relationships with colleagues are deepened and made more whole as we vulnerably share with them our experiences of failure and these people become our greatest support as we move toward new challenges and successes.

3. Develop humility. Sometimes success makes us forget who we are, disassociates us from our values, or leads us to treat others as inferior. Failure can be just the antidote we need to deal with an inflated ego and return us to reality, helping us understand anew the good we want to accomplish with others in our personal and work lives.

4. Take time to reflect. Failure often affords us the opportunity to take some time away, to reflect on and understand the reasons behind our failure, and to reset our lives and careers, and renew our focus on our vision and purpose.  

5. Build strength and resilience. If we let it, failure can be a great source of strength, building our willpower and determination to success, and helping us develop the resources to recover more quickly from future setbacks.

Yes, you can do this.

As the Japanese proverb says: fall seven times, stand up eight.

Regaining Your Confidence After a Career Setback

Everyone has disappointments and setbacks in their career, from that promotion or raise you didn't get to getting fired or laid off.

Sometimes that setback can impact your confidence and leave you struggling to regain it.

Here are 5 steps you can take to get your confidence back after a career setback.

1. Small victories. Set some small, immediate, and attainable goals in order to restore your confidence in your abilities. Sometimes simply the process of setting a small goal and attaining it is enough to set one back on the path to larger goals.

2. Focus on strengths. You have specific skills and areas of strengths. Try to focus your energies on activities that utilize these strengths and build confidence.

3. Surround yourself with support. Find those around you--family, friends, coworkers--who believe in you and your abilities. Their belief in your skills and strengths can speed your recovery from a setback.

4. Find a mentor. Seek out another expert in your field to serve as a mentor and to guide you through this time. Your mentor can assist you in making the best decisions for your career as you move forward.

5. Learn something new. Take some time to learn a new skill or take a class. Experiencing some success in a class and adding to your skill set can provide the confidence to move ahead in other areas of your life and career.

Implement these 5 steps following a career setback and you'll be back on your feet and headed to new successes.

Career Setbacks Can Lead to Opportunities

Most everyone experiences setbacks or disappointments throughout their career—some people may encounter many. Although they’re not always welcome, setbacks can serve as invaluable growth and learning opportunities.

Look at the Big Picture
When you experience a setback, it is easy to view the situation personally and over analyze it. While it is important to acknowledge your feelings, once you get over the disappointment, you’ll benefit more from viewing the big picture and studying the matter objectively. You may discover that the decision leading to your setback or disappointment was not personal at all and had more to do with management’s need to meet numbers at a specific point in time. Or, if you are truly honest with yourself, you may find that you weren’t ready to take on that new role or project you were trying for. It may help to think back to other times in your work or personal life where disappointment eventually led to bigger and better opportunities.

Uncover the Opportunities in Every Situation
Situations involving setbacks or disappointments are often opportunities for personal and professional growth. Focus on what you can learn from each experience and identify actions you can take that will help you grow. For example, if you were bypassed for a promotion due to your limited project management experience, are there existing team opportunities for leading a group project at work or through a volunteer organization.

Any career will have its ups and downs, but with dedication, hard work, and the right attitude, your career journey can still be rewarding and fulfilling.